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Originally posted by VctoriasSecrt:
i was not refuting your PROCESS...you cannot say that it is inappropriate for someone to act a certain way after being rejected...only that person knows how much they wanted it...and ONLY that person knows how much it hurt THEM...i have nothing against the process...i never even said she deserved a reason for being rejected...nor do i believe she does...i believe my exact words were...it is easy to say that from the other side...once you have already made it...those that have only been in for a while...in my experience SEEM to forget all the pains of getting there and are quick to tell someone else that is rejected to suck it up and press on...(i like that borrowed term ya'll use)...i'll be damned if after finding out my friend had been rejected that i tell her to suck it up and press on...i saw the pain in her face and it was real...maybe you misunderstood what i said...maybe you didn't and just extended your comment...who knows...but your process is your right...being hurt is a rejects right...
peace and blessings...
[This message has been edited by VctoriasSecrt (edited May 07, 2001).]
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We are selective Fraternities and Sororities. As such we choose who will join our membership. Some applicants are accepted, others are rejected. Those who are rejected may have an immense desire to become a member. However that will never supercede the qualifications for becoming a member in the NPHC organizations.
What ABSOLUTELY DO
YOU KNOW ABOUT all of HBGLO's membership intake process' that would warrant one feeling unaccepted? Beware! Be leery with your statements here... There are National Officers from the NPHC and NPHC affiliates surveying this board... This is not even CLOSE to a JOKE!!!
Yes, being rejected hurts. Yes, our statements may seem hurtful to an outsider. But to put it bluntly, those rejects choose to feel hurt--and especially around US. They were rejected for a reason. Basically, they did not meet our criteria and we must reject them. SO WHAT? You think we should feel sorry for them? Okay. Yeah, I feel sorry for them. They are a sorry bunch of rejects!!!
Yes, I intend to be mean... But there are expectations, qualifications and standards which are crystal clear. But, I guess you want us to deal in mediocrity? Accept half assed people into our organizations? Okay. I get you. Everybody already can tell how YOU feel about the NPHC. How come it seems that you ONLY want to CRITICIZE the historically Black Greek Lettered Organizations?
I wonder?
