bejazd, that's actually not my friend, I quoted someone else
And I know it's "proper" to invite OOTs but that would mean having a mini-reception and I don't want that. So, this is technically a destination wedding, it's gonna be just the wedding party and SOs BUT I will reserve a block of rooms and have small gift baskets for everyone in their hotel rooms with a list of local restaurants, etc. I think that's fair.