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Originally Posted by Bluetiful
I'm just wondering if anyone here has found "the one" and been together a long time. Then when you think that it's time to take the next step and start discussing marriage (because things have been going great for 5 years - never lived together though) "the one" tells you that he doesn't think that you are "the one" for him. There are no kids involved. The is no cheating, no lying, no abuse of any type involved. It was just an honest heart-to-heart-with-your-best-friend kind of conversation. Nobody is mad at anyone because nobody did anything to anyone. That might have made it easier to leave, weird as it may sound. You know you're a great catch and you know you can't convince the person of this if he doesn't already think so. So you leave.
If you're willing to share, I'm interested in knowing your story. What happened? Where did you find yourself months/years later after "the one" told you that you were not "the one" for him/her? Did you ever find someone else who thought you were "the one?" Does anyone have a happy ending to share- yours or anyone else's?
Thank you in advance to anyone who replies. . . .
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A few things:
1) Why in THE WORLD would someone stay with someone else for 5+ years but then just randomly say he didn't think she was "the one" for him? The whole thing kind of confuses me. If someone is not feeling it, why do they feel the need to drag the thing out until that "yea, honey? by the way, I don't really think you're the one for me" conversation comes up.
2) I don't think anyone really should have to "convince" their worthiness to being "the one". If the other person is feeling it, they don't need that because it's something they would already know.
3) With that said, I guess I could say that is was happened to me a couple of years back. We did date 5+ years and after having that conversation, we broke up and I kept on steppin'. It just wasn't the right place or at the right time so I think it all worked out for the best. I absolutely would not stay with someone just to try to convince him how great I am.... I'd rather free up my time to find the person who already knows that
