I've been where she's at right now in a way, and I think, even though she is acting in a very extreme manner, that she will be okay in time. I went through a horrible rejection that was sorority related, and although it's not really the same situation, I feel I can relate somewhat. I said a lot of drastic things afterwards that I didn't mean. I didn't end up quitting the org., and the fact that there were people who were just there for me helped tremendously.
Some people just don't deal well with rejection, especially if their heart was really set on it. I'm still bitter about my experience and probably always will be, but that doesn't mean that I did or meant the things I said immediately afterwards. Just give her some time and be her friend. She'll find her own way of dealing with it. At least that's what I did.
