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Husky, along those lines - here is Robert E Lee's definition of a gentleman, which is the code of the Kappa Alpha Order:
The forbearing use of power does not only form a touchstone, but the manner in which an individual enjoys certain advantages over others is a test of a true gentleman.
The power which the strong have over the weak, the employer over the employed, the educated over the unlettered, the experienced over the confiding, even the clever over the silly--the forbearing or inoffensive use of all this power or authority, or a total abstinence from it when the case admits it, will show the gentleman in a plain light
The gentleman does not needlessly and unnecessarily remind an offender of a wrong he may have committed against him. He cannot only forgive, he can forget; and he strives for that nobleness of self and mildness of character which impart sufficient strength to let the past be but the past. A true man of honor feels humbled himself when he cannot help humbling others.
These ideals are what I would hope my son would model his life after.
I know that this creed resonated with my son, he sent it to me in an email where he spoke of what his fraternity means to him.
I would hope that it is not all a ruse, where he is instead in some snobatorium which will change him from the young man of good moral character and values that I know into a "fratty" type that is represented by many of these posts. That tragedy would far outweigh any "connections" he might be making.
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