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Originally Posted by beautifulnite12
We were hazed and I hated it, but stuck it out because my Big and the other sisters I was close to said that once I got in, I could help to change it.
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Can I ask what constituted the hazing, or do you feel like that specificity would give away your location?
The reason that I ask is because I am amazed what some people consider hazing. My home chapter no longer give tests over fraternity history during pledgeship because it might be considered hazing!! oh please. I also read another post on GC that said some consider not letting pledges wear letters is hazing.
I assume from your comments the incidents were much more significant than this. To that I would ask, did they endanger life or health (ie forced alcohol consumption), were they truly degrading or just silly?
If the answer if "life endangerment", I would say tell someone--tell everyone!!--in authority right now. As an alum and a mom, I don't care NEARLY as much about my GLO as I do my daughter's (or any NM's) safety!! Period.
If the experience was degrading, I would be more apt to work within the chapter as others have suggested. Obviously it needs to be dealt with (and I'm proud of you for wanting to be the change agent), but my response might be different.
I can honestly say nothing in my pledgeship came close to hazing. It saddens me that many of the fun and meaningful experiences I had as a pledge 20+ years ago have been banned in the campaign for "no hazing", but true hazing still exists. *sigh*