Hello Everyone,
I was in-active my last year as an undergrad, but in no way did I blame SGRho for what made me choose to become inactive. I just knew that once I graduated, I would one day become active again in a grad chapter. I have known of sorors who have disowned SGRho, because of issues that went on and I think that is very unfortunate. Now when I said I went in-active it was the hardest, most stressful time I think in my life. I cried more times then I hate to even remember and two years later, I can still feel the tears well-up when I think about it!
As many Greeks know... it is not easy to become a soror. Love it with all your heart, soul, and then try and mesh with those who could care less about it. And now a days it is even worse, because I think that we as African-Americans have really lost the meaning of why SGRho, AKA, DST, and Zeta were founded in the first place. (This thought always kept me going and although I was in-active I still paid national dues and in my own way supported my chapter, just from a distance). I
can not speak for all sororities, but I do hope that we try and bring back those who have fallen by the wayside. I think we sometimes have to be reminded that you can not hold on to what so and so said or did to you etc. You have to look deep inside yourself and as long as you know you are trying to do right, then try and fix the negative. And if you can't...then you may have to ignore it. Because the one lesson I learned was, you should never let anyone take away your love and time from your sorority due to their ignorance. Eventually they will weed themselves out and disappear.
Not to be long-winded, but I did want to comment on the non-greek comment issue. Not to sound mean, but I agree that an outsider looking in...really should not comment on a subject such as this. Because it is not so black and white. I say this because no matter if your mother, bestfriend, aunt, sister has informed you of troubles within their org., they probably are not telling you everything...nor should they.
Trust me when I say..if you think you have a clue of what is really going on in a sororties' chapter..."YOU DON'T"! My husband is a Kappa and my sister is a Zeta and I still would not even dare to try and find out or say what I think would have been going on in his frat or her sorority now or ever. It is just a matter of respect.....
Tenacious1922