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Originally Posted by pearlygirl08

Hey everyone!
This is my first post, so forgive me if I make a mistake in posting!

I just joined my sorority as a junior this month through informal recruitment. We will be having Big/little events soon. We were told that we can choose a big. My question is, who should I choose? As a junior, a lot of the newer girls are younger than me. I am close with several senior girls, but I am not sure if I should choose a senior as my big, since she will graduate in just a few months. I have a few friends that are sophmores or juniors, so I could also ask them, though I am closer with the seniors.

I hope this makes sense! Thanks for your help.

Choose someone you can see yourself being in touch with over the years. Someone whose companionship you see as sustainable. If it is all one way, it becomes work and not a good relationship.

Yes yes, we are all about sisterhood, but let's face it...we all maybe "sisters" but we aren't all living the same lives. My big sister vanished off the face of Phi Mu right after I was initiated. I keep my eyes out on various "alum" style boards for the campus for her, but I doubt she will ever resurface. (She is listed as "lost" by our HQ)

I work hard to stay in contact with my "littles" because that is the kind of person I want to be to others.