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Originally Posted by Senusret I
Okay, so I am single and not a sorority member (clearly) but I feel like I have something to add to this.
So I have a friend in a sorority and she's somewhere between 30-35. I know a girl in her chapter who is in her mid-twenties.
The friend was like "Oh, you know [Jane]? She has a bit of a rep, huh?"
And I was like how so?
And she said, well she just seems.....fast.
Well, I happened to know that Jane was, in fact, the campus slut. But, my friend brought up a bigger issue of perception.
See, Jane would bring her boyfriends/dates/friends of the moment to EVERYTHING. Service projects, formals, etc. So her rep got tarnished because it seemed like she had a new man every month and she was pressed to bring him around to fellow members.
Knowing that our orgs can be on the conservative side, I would just say that women ought to be careful if reputation is something they care about. If you have a significant other, I don't believe a woman should feel like she can't bring him around. But if you're just dating dudes..... yeah, they don't have to be around sorority members.
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I hate gossipy biatches. That applies to men and women. Not directed at you.
Do they really know the nature of her relationships with the dudes she brought? Maybe they did and maybe they are still exaggerating. I guess she may've been clinging on dudes too much for any of them to be platonic friends.
But that's very sisterly for them to let you know all of that about her (you just so happened to have already "known" her campus rep--what if you hadn't?). If they have an issue with Jane they need to holla at Jane about it.
rant/Other than that, I agree with you about just dating dudes and bringing them around. For me it's not about perception and what gossipy biatches may think and say. For me it's about having boundaries for potentially unimportant relationships. Taking multiple dudes who you are just "dating" around friends and family members is silly to me because it shows that you aren't too selective in who you introduce people to. I know of people who have had dozens of boyfriends (big no-no to me) and treated everysingleone like it was damn near marriage---taking them everydamnwhere and introducing them to everydamnbody. On some old "I am your rib, Adam" type stuff. Geesh, how do these people know when it's actually a real relationship that's actually going to go somewhere versus someone who is only there for a month or two?
/rant