Have mercy on us
Its sometimes hard to answer emotionally ladened questions on an internet bulletin board. The trend is to answer analytically. So we try to quanitfy and qualify emotions in order to talk about them.
This being said, and going back towards the original post, how long to wait? Well, not speaking for anyone else, not even guys in general, when I am infatuated with someone or in love . . . its like no other experience, if I could bottle it as a drug I wouldn't sell it, i would use it all myself.
I swear the world is a better place because that person is alive, the colors seem richer and just the thought of them makes my heart race and my skin break out in goose pimples. Its like agony and ecstasy combined with a sense of wonder and discovery.
And for that feeling I would walk through fire, and wait forever, because just being with that person feels so much infinitely better than being anywhere else. Being with that person is like being home.
But, how analytical is that reply? So how useful to a bulletin board full of people?
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Originally posted by h2oot
I haven't exactly gotten into "rating" guys or "optimizing" relationships. To me its more about bonding, intimacy, compatibility, and chemistry. And these blend together on an emotional and intellectual level not as a rating on a score card (pun intended).
There is a lot to be said about the mystery of love and coming together as a couple....and discovery.
If you really wanted to do this objectively you could:
1) sleep with a control group of women of various sizes, nationalities, races...hey maybe even a few guys (ya never know...wink.)
2) sleep with your prospective mate for comparison. You should prolly videotape it so you can fully assess reactions, mean time to orgasm, flexibility, durability, max torque, RPMs, etc.
3) conduct a cost benefit analysis of the relationship. Maybe you can get a better "deal" with the gal down the street. Who knows, maybe at the corner pub you can get a "two for one" or a "happy hour special."
4) be sure you "breed" a couple of kids to see if your prospect is as responsive after a day with the kids. I mean a guy as to be sure the lady keeps him smiling.
5) etc., etc.
I want to clairify one thing--I'm not against pre-marital sex, I am stressing that I will BE with a guy depending on my emotional readiness and not because some guy feels it's his due or if he threatens to move on.
I agree as you get older some of the issues may change, but for now I'm about being in love first. What works for me is if sex is an expression of my love, than to hope I can find love out of sex.
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