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I think the gist of what's been said is that it's difficult to generalize what women want while in college. For myself, I know that I broke up with my HS sweetheart when we both went to separate schools. For the first two years in college a relationship was the furthest thing from my mind. Mainly, I wanted to meet people, make new friends, and have fun.

As far as sexuality goes, I am not one to do much, if anything, unless I am in love and had no problems dating guys who understood and respected my wishes regarding this.

At the end of last summer I met somebody special and fell in love. Was I specifically looking for a relationship...no. We met, we connected, and we fell in love.

I agree that women are generally more into relationships than men. But that doesn't mean I "have to have a guy" or even want one. To me it means: how I relate, and issues of intimacy and trust, are more important to me than they are for most guys.

When I begin to date a guy, he may be more interested in the sex angle, while I'm more into the relationship aspect. But that doesn't mean I want him as a boyfriend. The relationship part that interests me involves how he treats me, is he interesting, do we enjoy being with each other, is he fun, is he attractive, etc., etc. And yes, girls do talk about this among one another, as guys may talk about the new features on the newest model of car.

The alternative to "lets have sex", is not "lets get married. Finally, I see just as many guys who go from serious relationship to serious relationship as I see gals.