[lovelyivy84]

Valkyrie: responding to your post, certainly no this thread, lol.

What is wrong with placing value on your sexuality? I think that in terms of the women on this board

a. not everybody is telling the truth

and

b. many here legitimately do think of sex as something intimate

I have met plenty of girls who have wild sex lives, and I can tell you that it has been EXCEEDINGLY rare for any of those women to have a great deal of self-esteem. This is not s judgement, but an observation based on me meeting and talking to these women- not just seeing what they do and drawing my own conclusions. A lot are using sex to get love or affection, or because they think they're not good enough, or for a dozen very dysfunctional reasons.

I think that the best thing about the time we live in is not that people are more likely to go out and have wild sex, but that people are LESS likely to judge those who do. Your life is your life, and as long as you aren't hurting anyone (that is a big condition for me anyway) why should I care? That is something that I see as far more prevalent in our society, with both good and bad results (people are less likely to get involved when other people are legitimately doing wrong, and feel less of a responsibility to help one another).