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Originally Posted by Scandia
Some people do have very high standards to protect themselves against further damage. Once upon a time their standards were much lower in order to have someone- and boy did it backfire because what they got certainly were total scum. So by raising your standards, you make sure to filter out scummy people.
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Well, the thing is, those people lack balance in their lives. That's not a problem with the people they date but a problem with the person, him/herself.
Their standards were low before (big mistake #1) and now their standards are intentionally unrealistically high (big mistake #2). That's the formula for loneliness.
I always say people with a bad relationship or dating track record are people who: 1) intentionally find a certain type over-and-over again so they can predictably fail because they aren't ready for a relationship or are afraid of a relationship OR 2) people who have internal issues that lead them to unintentionally find a certain type over-and-over again.