[bellwisdom]

First and most importantly, make sure that the big and little have something in common and are not complete opposites

Some chapters require every active to have a lil. I think that is not good because unfortunatly you will have some active who don't want to be a big, if they don't want to be a big the they won't be putting there heart into it. Which will only cause problems for the pledge.

If you have an Active Member Scholarship chair I would team up with him and ask his advise as well. Make the bigs be study buddies as well.

Let your bigs know how vital they are in this pledges journey and they need to make that pledge feel like he can look up to him or ask him anything

Like someone said before, its supposed to feel like family.

One thing I know one of our chapters do is recognize the "Big/Lil Team" of the quarter award. It's very competitive there and both actives and pledges vote on the criteria.

And I agree with everything the last two posts' said.