Against my better judgement, I'm going to break my policy of not discussing these personal issues and respond just this one time.
I waited to meet my now-husband before I chose to become intimate. For me, it was definitely the right choice and it is a decision that I will never regret.
I agree with Erika that sex is a very important and wonderful part of marriage. But we part ways in the idea that you need to "test the waters" to find out if you are sexually compatible.
Call me incredibly naive, but I believe that if there is already a deep, abiding, emotional and mental love between two people...99% of the time, sexual compatibility will follow. It is an amazing compliment to the strong foundation that already exists between the couple. The other 1% of the time...well, there are medications, therapies and all sorts of help available to help a couple weather the storm and "get to where they want to go."
Granted, I may not have had much experience before I met my husband. I also have no one to compare him to. However, that having been said...I didn't need to sleep with anyone else or with him right away to KNOW that we are sexually compatible, or to know that our sex life is mind-blowing.
I'm not saying this to get "holier-than-thou" on anyone. Again, waiting was the right thing for ME to do. As long as you can make peace with your own decisions, that is what really counts.
And with that, ladies and gentlemen, I step off my soapbox and take my leave.
