[SWTXBelle]

I think it fair to say that we all hope that all qualified pnms will find a sorority home where they can contribute, and which will enable them to grow and take advantage of all that sorority membership offers. With the exception of the occasional crazy, we know that it is possible. The road is often filled with obstacles, and it can be tough. I know that I try to be encouraging in a very general way because it simply isn't possible to know all the variables at work with anyone's recruitment experience. I do think that if we see a pnm wandering into dangerous territory in terms of attitude or postings it is in the pnm's best interest to warn them. It may be a simple matter of misunderstanding, but surely anyone mature enough to go through recruitment can accept some constructive criticism. That said, as sorority women I think we should strive to be encouraging AND realistic, and provide advice and encouragement while remaining objective about the fact we really don't know all that much about the specific situation.