[MerryGPhiB]

... the best response is to be curious and active listen. One you may find out what her specifics interests are and be able to turn it into an opportunity. Such as, well I'm glad you're excited about_____ (feel free to fill this in - such as - the leadership opportunities)- , you may want to ask that exact question of each other groups as too and find out what makes each unique. It's a great time to get to know about all of the houses on campus.

If she gets released by her favorite, she'll appreciate the suggestion and many times it gets a young woman to rethink the opportunity sitting right in front of her......

I learned a fabulous saying in Grad school.... you don't know what you don't know..... it is so very true. So often we think, XYZ is the one and only house.... yet we have never even looked at the opportunities right in front of us!