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SoTrue1920-Beautifully put-Most women aren't either/or. Most women in American society have been dancing on the balance of both/and for decades, and don't seem to be any worse for wear because of their dual roles.
A good solid relationship allows both partners the latitude to express and develop different aspects of strengths and weaknesses. It's like a symphony. Sometimes the female has the supporting role others, the male. It's in constant change as we face changing demands.
When we see what people write on these boards, "Why do guys..." or "Why are women...", it shows our desire to understand others. The problem I see is we tend to compartmentalize individuals when maybe the truth lies somewhere a little deeper. Sweeping generalizations work on the surface, but once a relationship is beyond the initial stage, in my own life I've found you can toss a lot of those generalizations out the window. I don't want to be put into a box and have people expect me to be one way or another. There have been times I was the strong one and times I needed the strength of my husband. We allow each other to be what is needed at the moment rather than what some stereotype might dictate.
This leads me to think the men you refer to may have image or control concepts that aren't only out of sync with the times, but the reality of what women (and men) are fully capable of in a relationship. As usual, I could be way off.
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