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Originally posted by James
Some background:
Someone I had met at work had gotten married to this woman from Russia that he had been a sort of pen pal with. And I remembered that another guy I knew had been on vacation in Russia and did the same thing.
And then I recalled yet another conversation (this is a seperate thing) with a guy that was saying they were arranging some marriages where the man would bring the woman over and be married for 2 years for a great deal of money. And that the man would decline the money or make some spliiting arrangement because he wanted to stay married.
The two guys I first mentioned are good looking guys in good physical shape (i.e. they train a lot) and are reasonably successful in their fields. A good catch you would think, and they did indeed date a lot. Neither had ever been married, had no children and are in their 30's.
In conversations with these guys they say they prefer the foreign culture to Americanized women because they seem to be more famlily orientated with better relationship skills. And cited the lack of a lot of these skills as the reason why dating Americanized women is hard.
I say Americanized menaing women that have embraced mainstream American vlaues and behaviors.
This has been echoed by other men that I have talked to who also believe this.
So I was wondering, especially from some of the ladies that have some trans generational experience, if they have noticed that relationship skills are on a decline among females?
We'll leave men out of it this time lol.
Needless to say neither man mentioned above was very popular with a lot of American women when they came back.
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James you are going to have to clarify.
No one is exactly sure of what you are talking about.
If you meant things like tenderness and communication in terms of relationship skills, then I would have to say that I have seen no evidence that American women are lacking those qualities and more than internationals. But that does not even seem like the kind of thing one can quantify, much less judge and I don't hink you would really ask us to. So I am ruling that out.
The common assumption is that relationship skills as you are using the term means subservience and a home oriented mindset. If that is what you meant then please say it. If that is what you meant then please refer to SilverTurtle's post. I think she made a good point.
As for their lack of popularity with American women when they came back, that is amusing. I wouldn't be mad. I would pity anyone who feels they have to buy a wife, or that they can't deal with a woman who will be an equal in their relationship. That's just sad and yes they would probably lose a great deal of my respect. But why be angry? She gets what she wants, he gets what he wants. Not my business past that.