[AOII Angel]

I completely agree with Sensuret. If they are talking about your homosexuality behind your back, come clean and tell them the truth face to face. If they can't handle the truth, then make a decision about deactivating. That being said, I'm sure your fraternity has a non-discrimination policy that may allow you to become an alum rather than deactivate if the local chapter isn't welcoming to you once you tell them the truth. Don't be embarrassed about who you are. Their attitudes about you are a mirror of your attitudes about yourself. After that, you can't fight ingrained bigotry. The truth is out there in pieces, so it's too late to pretend you're straight. I wish you the best of luck.