[33girl]

One of my big fears in high school used to be that there would be a nuclear war and I would die a virgin. I didn't have sex till I was in college and it was with someone I loved, who loved me. I can't imagine if it would have been a one-nighter or something.

After that relationship turned sour and ended, I admit, I had quite a bit of fun. And I don't regret any of it. Mainly because, I went back to my hometown for a while after graduation. So many people there married the first person they dated and/or slept with, because getting married was a sign of "success." And guess what, after 4 years they were like "hey....I closed myself off before I needed to" and they were @$#%ing around with anyone and everyone. The whole town is like Peyton Place and it's really nauseating sometimes. I personally think it's worse to sleep with one person other than your spouse after you are married than to sleep with 100 people before you get married.

On the other side of the coin, there are people like my friend Beth who started going with this guy when she was 12...married him...and they are still very happy together. But that is very, very, VERY rare.

So don't limit your options before you have to...I think when people start screwing around it is not so much for the sex itself, but for the newness and the thrill. In that sense, I think you can save yourself for marriage and not worry about it later...but if you only ever kiss one guy, unless you are a rarity or a very complacent person, eventually the urge to experiment is going to come out.