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It has been my experience that the kind of guys who like to order their wife out of a catalog are looking for a measure of control. Let's face it.....the majority of young, marriageable women in our country want more than to clean all day, have dinner on the table when their man gets home and then be ready to perform sexually when the dishes are done and he's had enough of ESPN for the night. And on the flip side, the new two-income standard has made it really difficult for those of us women who want to be stay home moms....not only do the men resent having to be the breadwinner (which was, after all, their traditional role) but other women look down on you as lazy or unmotivated or unskilled. There is a particular "control-freak" stereotype placed upon the men who import their wives from Asian countries where women are traditionally subservient.....
I do not believe women in this country lack "dating" skills. We simply want and expect more out of a man nowadays. We also want more for ourselves. It used to be that women NEEDED men.....we now have the luxury of marrying because we want to and are in love, not because we need to in order to survive financially or socially, or because we have to in order to have sex without social disapproval. We don't even need to be married to have kids now. I don't think men like this as much as they pretend they do. At first a lot of guys liked it that the women were out there hoofing it in the workplace, bringing in money and padding their lifestyles.....now they see that it changes the whole complexion of things. These poor girls in Russia need a man to take care of them.....they are desperate to escape from their lifestyle over there and are so grateful to come here that they will do anything for the man who "saved" them.
Sorry to rant but I have seen way too much of this.....I am so sick of hearing guys whine about how women are nowadays....if they would just decide what it is they want life would be a lot more pleasant for all involved.
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