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Originally posted by SoTrue1920
I think that one of the reasons that a lot of these men seek foreign brides is because they have this perception that American women are too headstrong, that we are too self-actualized, that we're entirely too independent. If a man sees these qualities as detrimental to forging a relationship, then maybe he needs to take a look at himself and stop placing the blame on women. I think men use these straw man arguments in order to frighten women into thinking that "If I decide to stand up for myself/work outside the home/maintain my independence, I'll never find a suitable mate." What I find most appaling is that these men have embraced the very same "Americanized attitudes" that they blame American women for embracing, but no one even gives them a sideways glance.
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Hear hear!!
There are a lot of men out there who feel threatened by the idea of an independent-minded woman who has a career and other priorities than being a housewife - someone who went to college for something other than an "MRS degree". It's "ok" for men to have those attitudes, because they're men. We as women are expected to submit, stay home, cook and clean, and make babies.
I'm not that type of woman, and I've always made that abundantly clear. I didn't spend 5 years in school earning 2 degrees to be a housewife. Have I lost potential mates because of it? Yes, but I would not have wanted to be married to them. Instead I am married to a wonderful man who fully supports my decision to work and to continue to work once we start a family. (Besides, I'm terrible at cleaning.
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(I don't meant to insult any SAHM's out there - it's just not something I could do.
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