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Originally Posted by texas*princess
What if the ex never goes away?
There is a guy I dated on and off for about 4-5 yrs... it's an awful cycle - we get together, and a few months later something happens that makes me not want to see or hear from him ever again, so we stop talking, and he always finds a way to contact me, and we start talking again, and we get together again, and then the cycle begins again.
A few months ago was another point where I said, "WTH, everytime I talk to you again, I regret it a few months later"... so we stopped talking, and I've asked him to kindly leave me the hell alone. If he finds something in his apt that is mine, keep it, throw it, or sell it on ebay... I obviously don't care enough to realize it's gone (he's used this a few times to get back in contact with me). It seems that just as my life is returning to normal, I'm dating other guys, that's when he tries to come back in the picture.
Over the last couple months he's tried a few times and sent me text messages, I got a couple of Christmas ecards and a "happy holidaze" text message the other day. (poor guy, doesn't know how to spell...haha). I haven't responded to any of them.
Why can't he just go away?
What part of "leave me alone and don't talk to me ever again" is so hard to understand? If a guy told me that, I'd leave him alone!
I'm just so frustrated.
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Well he's obviously not stalking you because you let him back in everytime. It seems that you used to enjoy this rollercoaster ride and you've given him the wrong idea. Until now. You now expect him to think it's finally over and to go away as if you've proven yourself anything other than inconsistent in the past.
If you want him out of your life, put him out of your life. Continue to ignore his attempts at contact with no relapses. If he doesn't get the point, change your contact info.