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To drum into ANYones head anti-sex messages is really asking for problems later on.
Of COURSE if you know or even THINK your children are contemplating sex you help them the best you can- to protect them.
You ARM your children with knowledge BEFORE the act so they don't get caught with their pants down so to speak.
THESE ARE A GIVEN!
It is inevitable that parents don't want their children ,making the same mistakes they made be it financial-sexual-drug experimentation-raising kids and on and on. Thinking CHANGES when you have REAL kids as opposed to hypothetical ones.
An alternative to what you describe as a good way to advise a child is NOT the equivalent of soldering a chastity belt around your daughter or feeding salt peter to your son. It is keeping sex in perspective as an integral part of LOVING, healthy, human relationship- not something to be bandied about. Personally, I feel you are too liberal in your attitude for my comfort on this subject, and I could not disagree more with your message to the young "girls" and "boys" who may read these boards. Please note the implied age distinction. I am sure you are in equal disagreement on my stance as well.
I too was raised in a supportive climate where communication was open. This is what we, Hubby and I, have tried to emulate
in our home. Waiting until marriage was taught almost exclusively in the homes of people I went to college with. It did not make us crazy-frigid-sexless-uninspired-klutzy lovers-quite the contrary. Neither did it "doom" everyone to sexless love lives. People still had "freedom of choice" and many chose over and over and over... What it did do was give us a moral compass and that is what want for my own children.
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