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I really want to clear something up. I have two children, YES CHILDREN, 17 and 19. Neither is ready for the intimacy, responsibility or baggage that comes with having sex. My daughter is very open about this issue and as far as she has said, the girls who do and the girls who don't are known- Maybe it's because of religious background, no divorce, the region, but by all indicatons, everyone is NOT doing it. Since she has gone to college, of course the percentage of sexually active people she knows has gone up. Heck, her roommate showed up 3 times last semester-she was living with her boyfriend and her parents were clueless. The glory of independence in college often makes for breaking every "rule" carried with you from living with your parents. Instant maturity!
A lot of you guys responding are much older than a Junior in HS or a Freshman in college. So how can my perspective even relate to yours? It can not. I agree, there will come a time when a choice must be made. I pray to GOD for my children, they make the right choice-WHATEVER THAT MAY BE! I would hope that there is love, commitment and TRUST. Too much pain comes from demoralizing sex and frankly, the risks of unwanted EVERYTHING are too great to enter into lightly. I hope my children respect themselves enough to see through the BS that flows around the dating scene. I don't think sex and dating go hand in hand. I do know love and sex (in most cases) are in-seperable. When the majority of people around you are active, it is easy to let your oun judgement be dulled. To those of you who choose to wait-YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There are guys out there who will cherish you for your decision-WHO REALLY WANT TO BE YOUR FIRST AND LAST! For those of you who are active or contemplating the decision, make SURE it's what YOU want because more unhappiness comes from a decsion to have sex too soon than the decision to wait. I've said my peace. Now I will ask any and all-How will you advise YOUR children, what do you hope for them? Will you tell them, "Go out there and screw your little hearts out...it will be good for you."?
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