[FuzzieAlum]

Am I the only one out here on this wavelength?

I didn't have sex in high school - didn't date anyone seriously enough. I wasn't particularly interested in "saving myself for marriage," but the guy I dated through most of college wasn't interested in sex. He was very much into his technical virginity ... I sometimes felt, geez, am I the only girl on the planet who has to put the pressure on the guy? (I tried not to, really.)

Now I find being sex itself (in the strictest sense of "sex") a little uncomfortable. No guy has ever made me feel uncomfortable - it is in MY head that I wish I had more experience and had a better idea of what I was doing. I would rather have explored more of my sexuality with a guy who was doing the same thing, not someone with more experience.

Conclusion: If you want to save yourself, date other people who want to save themselves.