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Stick it out, please.
I'll say this, love me or hate me. I have never felt badly towards sisters that had to leave my chapter because they had a legitmate reason. For instance, they were already behind in dues and knew that due to an unforseen change in their financial situation or their parents' situation they would not be able to catch up. Or family problems have taken precedence due to an illness or struggle and they have time for nothing but family and school.
But sisters who get initiated and drop immediately afterwords because they just don't really feel it bother me. A lot. I'd never be mean to them, but I'm not very sympathetic either. There have been MANY times when I don't dig it...right now, for instance, to be honest. But I believe in keeping promises to the best of my ability...I signed up for this and if I'm going to just turn my back on it I'll need a damn good reason.
You should give it another semester. You've not been there long enough to know what it's about. Ritual is great, but I strongly believe it just WON'T mean a thing to you until you've tried to understand it, and your sisters will help you do that...probably not directly, but through their actions over time. Once it clicks you won't want to leave, even when you aren't feeling it.
Also consider the fact that it's a lifetime commitment. I may not be loving it right now (hopefully it'll get better this semester but even if not...) but I have the rest of my life to enjoy the benefits of being an Alpha Gam. So what are these four years to me?
Lastly, I have good friends, friends, aquaintances....most of my sisters fall into the friends category. A handful are good friends. Wanna know a secret? I have three best friends. Two are guys and one is a girl in a different sorority on campus. And another one? Most of the time when I bother to go out it's with a few of my Chi O friends. That's OK! You DON'T have to be best buddies with your sisters. I love mine...and I've never doubted my choice once in the time I've been at school and don't think I ever will, and it just never bothered me that my best friends weren't in my chapter. It actually helped me sometimes when drama popped up (it always will no matter what...it's a large group of girls, what do you expect?) to be able to hang out with someone who had no desire to talk about it. Don't let that bother you. It doesn't mean the chapter or sorority isn't for you.
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