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Originally posted by KSig RC
Well . . . maybe look at it like this (guy's perspective):
How do we 'rate' people as potential partners? Basically, we sit down and examine the positives and negatives (subconsciously) of each person.
Now, a strong sexual side to the relationship is a definite positive - so, since we're all seeking to optimize our relationships, if another girl came along with that positive, and all other things are equal, it makes perfect sense to seek that out.
Now, does intercourse necessarily equal a strong sex life? Not always . . . but each of us has our own thoughts on that.
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I haven't exactly gotten into "rating" guys or "optimizing" relationships. To me its more about bonding, intimacy, compatibility, and chemistry. And these blend together on an emotional and intellectual level not as a rating on a score card (pun intended).
There is a lot to be said about the mystery of love and coming together as a couple....and discovery.
If you really wanted to do this objectively you could:
1) sleep with a control group of women of various sizes, nationalities, races...hey maybe even a few guys (ya never know...wink.)
2) sleep with your prospective mate for comparison. You should prolly videotape it so you can fully assess reactions, mean time to orgasm, flexibility, durability, max torque, RPMs, etc.
3) conduct a cost benefit analysis of the relationship. Maybe you can get a better "deal" with the gal down the street. Who knows, maybe at the corner pub you can get a "two for one" or a "happy hour special."
4) be sure you "breed" a couple of kids to see if your prospect is as responsive after a day with the kids. I mean a guy as to be sure the lady keeps him smiling.
5) etc., etc.
I want to clairify one thing--I'm not against pre-marital sex, I am stressing that I will BE with a guy depending on my emotional readiness and not because some guy feels it's his due or if he threatens to move on.
I agree as you get older some of the issues may change, but for now I'm about being in love first. What works for me is if sex is an expression of my love, than to hope I can find love out of sex.