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Originally Posted by tld221
I'm single.
I'm young.
I have no kids.
I have no desire to get married.
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Sounds good to me Soror.
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Originally Posted by tld221
I don't want to take this thread too off-topic, but i never grew up with a desire to be married. My parents were married, and it wasn't exactly something to look forward to. And then they divorced, and that DEFINITELY wasn't something to look forward to. Of course there are very positive marriages that DO last til' death do them part, but I don't know anyone who can testify.
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I can. My parents would have been married 64 years this past Dec 20th. He passed away 4 years ago. They had their share of arguments and bad days but the good outnumbered and outweighed that and the most important thing is they loved each other. The were together through a war (he served WWII) , Civil Rights movement, assassinations of Malcolm X, Dr. M.L.King Jr., two Kennedy's, through 12 U.S. presidents, the 8-track tape, Voo-Doo economics, etc..you get the picture. Although divorce was available then, it was never a thought in the bucket because they came from the old school thought you only marry once. They stood by each other and for each other which seems to be an elusive thing these days. Now, he never abused her (and vice versa) as in physical, emotional or verbal. They would surprise each other with gifts and trips but never bought their love. They appreciated each other until his last breath and she still appreciates him. This is why I haven't married yet. I just turned 40 last month. I have yet to find a man (prior to my current boyfriend) strong enough to commit to one person who is strong in his own right (spirit, emotionally, physically and individually). I realize today is a different day but when I see my friends getting divorced with kids (young kids) and they were only married less than 5-10 years, to me it makes no sense. (or couples who never married but had a gaggle of kids) No one ever said marriage was easy, it's not supposed to be but the journey is a learning one and nothing can compare to it. We all have our own path to take and yours is yours alone.