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First of all very few women get married "intact". It is a rather delicate membrane that can be broken due to something as simple as riding horses or bikes and taking a fall. The "pain" is a non issue for MOST since many aren't even aware it happened...
If the hymen is thick then yes, there could be some momentary discomfort- maybe for a few, pain, but it isn't a majority by any means.
Most girls DO start out hoping/thinking they will save themselves.
Honestly, how many of the women posting thought, "Man I've got to get me some before I get married!"
The thing is, everything is working against those hopes-the advertisment and media climate is all abut sex. The music industry-videos and lyrics-is as well. Add to the mix that many people are getting married at an older age. College has taken the place of HS and just at the time people once married we now see a minimum of 4 more years before independance. Biological needs are out of sync with our society.
To the oiginal question, I agree it is extreme to deny oneself the pleasure of a kiss. I also believe that many women in an attempt
to please/attract/keep men go much farther than they would prefer (in the beginning). The truth is, once you cross the line, it is so very difficult to say "Never again". THIS WAS MY FATHER'S ADVICE. Each landmark you cross that brings you closer to sexual intimacy erases prior limitations. Soon, justifications creep into your mind and you give yourself the "green light" to continue on your sexual journey BUT are you emotionally ready?
Men will forever seek sexual experieces. Why women are so naive'(stupid?) to fall for the pressures and supposedly logical arguments men exert on them to have sex is beyond me. Instead of throwing stones or lashing out at those who would TRY to remain virtuous, we should applaud them and support them in their choice. Considering the broken hearts on this board alone, the women who cheat on their friends the men and women seeking comfort outside of their OWN marriage or relationship, leads me to believe we have done more harm to ourselves as women by relaxing our stance on intimacy. The men are lapping up the cream. OK...BLAST ME!
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