[AKA_Monet]

Animate-

You must really LOVE this young lady to say all the things you are saying without hateful language and anger. You are really trying hard to make this relationship workout.

In ONE word, what do you LOVE about this girl? You don't have to answer me, and the answer should come immediately on your tongue... If it does, then you know what you must do for this holiday, even if it comes out of a candy machine...

But, if it is tough, then you have to allow it be broken off. Sure, as friends and duties, you can spend time during the holidays. But, when it is over, it over. Take time to get over that.

What I think it is, her holiday times are not like your holiday times. She is having a tough time balancing the time for two. It sounds like she cares for you, and she knows how you enjoy the holidays with your family, she may or may not have similar experiences. If she does not have similar experiences, she knows that she has to scrip and scrape for everything she gets. That is why she is strongly focused.

It does not sound like there is somebody else. It just seems that the more you pressure her about your relationship status and doing things with her, the more she is pulling away, because like she said, she has confusion, when you press her.

You want her to enter your serious relationship willingly. She may feel she has not lived a life she wants, yet. You need to allow her to do that. However, you need to make clear, you will move forward, too...

Sweetheart, you email me if you have difficulty... And remember, what Christmas is all about...