Blaine, I know the feeling also! I get so depressed with the state of affairs at the Chapter that I want to tell them to shove it!
I boils down to the Old 80-20 syndrom.
80 % sit on their collective Butts while the 20 % do the work!
Have you talked to you Alums about this! While Alums are doing their thing like working and raising familys, there are always Alums like me who care enuff to go back and work with the young men who are running the day to day affairs of the chapter.
I laid off for awhile until we almost lost our Charter and got back into it up to my eyeballs! But again I get depressed and dispationed sometimes! But I vent on a close Brother and pick my ass up and get back into the fray!
Hang in and good luck!