I know a girl here at college who is planning to have her 1st kiss on her wedding night (apparently), and she's had a boyfriend for a few years now. He's a few years older and I'm sure they're planning to get married when she graduates. I think she's pretty seriously religious, but she's not a weirdo or anything. She's a really pretty, petite, nice girl. I personally don't see the point in not kissing before marriage, but for people who talk about "saving themselves," I think it makes sense to save everything, not just actual intercourse. I really don't want to hear about "saving themselves" from girls who've been giving blow jobs since middle school but are still "technical" virgins. I think if someone wants to save their "sexual purity" for their spouse, they should not go much beyond kissing with other people. Not that I'm saying anyone needs to save themselves (sexually) for the one they marry. I'm 21 now, not a virgin, and I can certainly see myself sleeping with at least a few more guys before I find someone I want to settle down with for the rest of my life. And I certainly don't hold my future husband to any higher standard than I hold myself.
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