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Originally Posted by 1908Revelations
I'm too lazy to go back and find who said this but I would rather be engaged and wedding plans underway before I live with someone. Also, there must be discussion of what is expected and when. But that is a road that I will have to cross when I get there and it seems no where in sight.
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Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB
I won't be doing it until there's a ring on my finger and wedding plans are underway. I know way too many women who have moved in with their boyfriends thinking it's a way to move the relationship along and all it's done was keep things in limbo. To each his own, but for me the next step in my committed relationship of two years is engagement. By this point, I've spent plenty enough time with him to know his pros and cons - you shouldn't have to live with someone to know that kind of stuff, and if you don't know it, that's probably a sign that you should not be movin' in with him/her.
Living together is not like marriage, so I've never really understood the "test" argument. Many people who live together before marriage never really make the mental leap to "married" and have a hard time adjusting to the idea that the person they're living with is now legally and financially bound to them, not just a roommate.
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There you go TWIN, I quoted it for you.
My views are straight from PeppyGPhiB's and KSUViolet mouths. If you ask the right questions and are around each other then you'll begin to truly know each other and their 'quirks'. Once I have the proposal and REAL plans are underway (read: Not "oh we're going to get married in a couple years", Not "I think that's the path we're headed" But Julie is our wedding planner. Venue is the church. This is the date.) then I'm all about moving in and living together. If it happens before then, I think folks can get too comfortable in 'playing house' and feel a false sense of security c) ladies who move in and give up their everything only to find out that it doesn't work.
<--- strong advocate of pre-marital counseling, marriage renewal retreats & partner prayer.
