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Originally Posted by lilsunshine214
A lot of times there's a big difference between theory and practice. In theory, you may promise to make dinner every night and the other person may promise to clean up everything afterwards. In reality, there are scheduling conflicts, laziness, and long days that get in the way. I think way too many people walk into marriage assuming that the theory is going to work and then run because it doesn't. I've seen it happen to too many couples. They walk in with monumental expectations and walk away because their fantasies weren't fulfilled.
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But I think this confuses realistic expectations with unrealistic expectations. I think KSUViolet06 is describing someone who has realistic expectations, asks honest questions and makes honest observations before deciding to tie the knot. What you have described is someone with unrealistic expectations.
I think that people with realistic expectations can usually figure out what they need to figure out without living together. They may still choose to live together, of course, but they'd know what they need to know either way. On the other hand, people with unrealistic expectations are in for a bumpy ride no matter what.
For my money, good premarital counseling is more important that anything else.