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Originally Posted by nittanyalum
Oh no, no, no, no, no -- remember, the other 2 are "theirs". I'm sure they "fit in" with them just fine.
They only adopted when they thought they couldn't conceive, they got the little girl and then later, pop!, got pregnant with "their own" children. So I don't think the arguments they're giving about the oldest daughter "not fitting" isn't really about what she will or won't eat for lunch...
This story really gets to me because 2 of my dearest friends come from family set-ups just like this one. They are both adopted, their parents had tried and tried and couldn't conceive, then soon after adopting my friends, both of their Moms got pregnant on their own. So they each have 2 additional siblings that are their parents' "biological" children. The idea that their parents might have then turned around and "given back" my friends (because they didn't "need" them anymore???), is unfathomable. They are their parents and they are their children. (although my friends "fit", at least race/culture-wise, in with their respective families, so I guess that is an advantage -- oh, and their parents are HUMAN and have an OUNCE OF DECENCY, so I guess that's a good thing too)
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I totally agree. My cousin is almost this age, and was adopted at the same age as that child, when my aunt and uncle thought that they couldn't have children. They now have another (biological) son. The idea of them "giving him back" is completely inconceivable. Seriously, he's their son. And, incidentally, we're white and he's Asian, so this story hits a little too close to home for me. I feel totally sickened.