[AOII Angel]

"For the last 20-odd years, I’ve slapped Band-Aids on my wounds while avoiding any kind of group female intimacy. I begged off on baby groups when my children were born and haven’t been able to bear book clubs, the charity circuit, women’s fitness classes or the country club scene. Even finding myself among a group of cheering and chatting mothers at my children’s sporting events can trigger that familiar anxiety.
But to my enduring wonder, I have never felt the same anxiety about men. To be sure, their violence and misogynistic rituals stole my innocence and triggered the demons of shame and repression that shackle me still.
Yet their actions, however crude and criminal, ultimately hurt me far less than the judgments, connivance and betrayal of women. The men in my drama acknowledged wrongdoing, apologized, showed remorse. Punishment, however minor, was meted out. They did not blame me, and they shouldn’t have. But the women shouldn’t have, either, and they did."

Slapping Band-aids on a fear and distrust of women...all women, since she can't even join a fitness class or mother's support group is pathological. Sorry if I worry that her feelings about women WILL be felt by her daughters. At some point she has to see that her experience should teach her that her sisters were not worth being friends with, not that all women are worth avoiding and fearing! Do I really think that her 20 year fear of women really has to do with a few "sisters" (who she admitted not really liking) kicking her out of her sorority? No! She may think she has "forgiven" her attacker because it is easier for her to compartmentalize her pain over her situation, her embarrassment over her supposed "fault" in the incident and her inability to move past the event into distrusting women. This is just a defense mechanism, not an indictment of sorority life. Sure those girls were selfish scumbags, but this poor woman needs help to come to grips with an event that she obviously has not gotten over.