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Originally Posted by fantASTic
It's come to a point where my male friends have to check IDs to make sure she's telling the truth that she's over 18 [especially for freshmen], make sure she has consumed not a drop of alcohol, AND make sure that she won't regret it tomorrow. That's a burden, considering all those are things that SHE should control. I'm tired of hearing stories of men accused of "gray rape"; "I invited him into my room, we were making out and ended up having sex. I totally regret it! He raped me!" We shouldn't just assume that everyone who claims they were raped was, indeed, raped.
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I agree with you to a certain extent, but I also think it's the responsibility of a guy to ensure his own safety. So if that means he has to check IDs, check and double check that a girl is willing, then so be it.
In general I think it's a bad idea to have sex with someone when either party is "drunk" to the point that either of them are not actually thinking about what they are doing. Not to mention the fact that you're having sex with a person that you barely know. All of it, for both parties, plays are part in the outcome. If the sex is really that important enough to put yourself in such a position, then that is a decision that you consciously made and have to deal with the outcomes.
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Originally Posted by fantASTic
This stuff actually happens. And it's ridiculous. A false claim of rape, even if he's not convicted, can ruin a man's life. Ladies: would you REALLY trust someone if you found out that he'd been accused of rape, even if he had been proven innocent? I wouldn't.
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On this I totally agree and I think how rape accusations are originally handled /perceived are always biased toward one of the parties, but the only way to avoid this (and it isn't 100%) is to make smarter decisions concerning who you sleep with, and under what circumstances it happens.