Check in with the 2 groups and visit with each one last time. Talk to a lot of the guys and their other new pledges. Tell them you feel lucky to have gotten a bid. Say that you want to chat one more time b/c you understand this is an important commitment. If they don't respect that, they're not the kind of guys you want to pledge. I believe they will probably tell you to come around and say hi. And they'll probably do their best to sell you on why you should accept the bid as long as you don't come off as an arrogant jerk trying to balance multiple bids.
Make a pro-con list if it isn't immediately apparent which one to choose. Some things to consider:
- Dues - can you afford them?
- Live-in requirements (is there a house?)
- Which group are you most comfortable with?
- How do they treat their pledges?
- What is the new member period like and how much time are you going to have to commit? Remember, you still have classes and a GPA to keep up.
- What's their social calendar look like?
- What are the other new pledges like? You'd be spending a lot of time with them, and you will run the chapter with them before very long.
- What do others on campus think about them? Any dishonorable activities or associations you should be aware of?
- And most important -- can you be yourself around these guys or do you feel like you are putting up a false image of who you really are?