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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy
1. Attractive
2. Romantic
3. A sense of humor
4. Communication
5. Honesty
6. Provider
7. Family man
8. Respectful
9. Leadership
10. Faithfulness
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My own list would be:
1. Respectful - without this, there is no relationship
2. Sense of humor - I laugh with my husband about something every day and cannot imagine a happy life otherwise
3. Honesty
4. Family Man - to me this means wanting kids, wanting to raise them as an equal partner, and the ability to be a good parent.
5. Communication
6. *Responsible/accountable* (not on PrettyBoy's list) - he does what he says he will do
7. Faithfulness - low on list because if he is everything else on the list, he will be faithful
8. Attractive - yep, at the bottom of the list... why? Because I found out a long time ago that someone with good looks can eventually become unattractive to you if you get to know them and don't like the inside... and someone who is not horrible looking can become the most attractive person in your life if they are everything else on this list.
Not on list: Leadership, Provider or Romantic.
Leadership is puzzling to me... not even sure what other women are wanting out of that because being married means being part of an equal team, to me.
Provider ... yeah, okay that is nice but as long as he isn't lazily sucking my own hard-earned resources I think I'm fine, so basically I just need someone who will provide for himself unless he is using his time for the benefit of something else important to us (like caring for a relative or staying home with the kids.
Romantic ... I honestly find everything I put on the list my biggest turn-on. Whether my husband buys me flowers and sends cards, etc. isn't really important to me. I've only found it important in relationships where something else was lacking (like respect or communication) and I thought that this "romance" was what would fill the hole.