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Originally Posted by PM_Mama00
Have you ever been treated really badly for something that wasn't your fault? Years later, it still hurts. I STILL resent some sisters for things they did to me 6 or so years ago.
When something someone did has such an impact on your whole college career (and in our cases sorority life), it's really hard to forget.
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First of all, I AM NOT BLAMING HER!
And, yes, I have been badly mistreated for something that wasn't my fault. I was abused for years as a child and then asked by an adult what I had done to deserve it. As a child, you can't help but blame yourself. As an adult, however, (and I am the same age as the author) you realize that those who blamed you are horrible, insensitive, ignorant people. At this point I wouldn't allow someone to get away with trying to make me feel bad about myself for it. (I'd bitch-slap them before I would allow that.)
I've also seen what my chapter did in response to a sister who was gang-raped at a fraternity. I was so disgusted that I took alumna status and left those petty women behind.
I'm not unsympathetic to this woman's situation! What bothers me is that as an accomplished adult, she still let's this woman make her feel shame for something that wasn't her fault. Worse yet, she admits that she doesn't know what to teach her daughters.