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Originally posted by VctoriasSecrt:
i do not know why...but black, white, or other...where you find sisterhood is where you should be...and if there are black women that are in bglo's that have dogged other black woman for finding sisterhood elsewhere...perhaps that is why those particular women found sisterhood elsewhere in the first place...because of encountering negative attitudes like that...get in where you fit in...  i have researched some multicultural sororities too that make me think about some things...like the TRUE meaning of sisterhood/brotherhood and personal development...get in where you fit in...not where "society" tells you you should be...
[This message has been edited by VctoriasSecrt (edited May 06, 2001).]
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This is exactly how I feel. I want to explain myself one last time with somewhat of a silly, but VERY true analogy.
Let's say that you dye your natural red hair blonde. But everytime you saw a person with REAL red hair they kicked you in the shin. OUCH! That would suck. Now, the first time it happened, you would think, that person is nuts! But after a while, you would want to avoid ALL redheads. Well, this is sort of how I feel. Like because I do not fit into some sort of preordained mold of what a black woman should be, I got crap for it. Well, after a while, I just stopped associating with the people who constantly kick me in the shins!! I can appreciate my black heritage. Matter of fact, I had a wonderful conversation this past weekend with my mom about LOTS of stuff, race being one of them, like I always do. But, otherwise, I just don't need the aggravataion, the hassle, the crap I got...When I went thru recruitment and found my chapter, I just knew I fit and they did too...Why should I not accept their love and sisterhood because they don't look like me? There are TONS of things that I could tell you to continue to express my history and how I came to have the feelings I do, but I don't want to drudge up all my s*it! Please, just trust that I know what is best FOR ME and accept that not all black women are going to join BGLO's!