[SthrnZeta]

Oh I'm well aware that deployments aren't easy, as I've done it before. BUT, he doesn't plan to stay in, so luckily this may be the last. I understand what you're saying about a POA and it makes sense. I'm not sure he'll go for it though, but at the same time if he's trusting me enough to put me on title and not the loan (his credit is better so we got a better rate without me on there) then perrhaps he might. We've also discussed how we're taking title and have decided on Joint Tenancy in the event anything happens to him, the house would go to me per the right of survivorship, rather than to his estate if it were tenancy in common - seemed only fair to both of us since I'll be the one putting equity into the house.

With the way we've been talking, it's as if we're engaged already, if it weren't for it bothering him that other people believe us to be (listing agent of the house, lender, etc.) than I would be led to believe that he also feels that way. I think he's just scared to end up like so many other soldiers who have gotten screwed over by their significant other back at home and it's a totally valid fear. At the same time, I need to know I'm waiting for something and I'm trying to believe that this house thing is enough. But why make comments about we'll have two incomes when I'm back, and our next house we'll use my VA on and rent this one out as an investment property, etc. if you're not going to propose now - it seems only natural to me.

And as much as I want to say I'd be fine without a ring - I wouldn't be. When you tell people you're engaged, people wanna see the ring. And besides, having that little something to look down at when you're down would be a nice little reminder for yourself, a token to give you strength and be patient for his return. Frivolous? Maybe? Do I still want it? Yes.