[AlwaysSAI]

I find it most useful to give men a list of a few things ie:

For our anniversary/christmas/hannakuh/birthday...you get it

I want: Item A, Item B, or Item C

Then, he knows exactly what to look for, there is still a little bit of suspense involved and everyone leaves happy.

I know it's not as 'romantic' as most people like, but it works for me pretty well.