(Soror Lovely Ivy-- I agree with you on whateva's, cleva and if you truly of Afrikan decent and ain't got no bruhs and sistahs as friends then you've got some issues. And your comments about excuses---RIGHT ON!!!)
For Sigmagrrl:
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Originally posted by sigmagrrl:
I know I stereotype, doesn't mean it's right, but don't we all? Regardless, let's get back to my situation: Time and time again, I have failed to "qualify" as a black enough from high school on thru college. When I tried to do what I was "supposed to": join the African Cultural clubs, Caribbean Cultural groups, etc, I did not feel accepted, but I also didn't like them. So, I moved on to drama, my sorority, and other clubs that had nothing to do with race and I made more friends there and felt more accepted and appreciated there...So, now, I just don't even bother! And the beautiful thing is is that I don't HAVE to! I learned my lesson. When you are burned over and over, you learn to not put yourself in that fire again. It's a waste of both my time and theirs, usually. The two black women I am friends with have been persecuted the same way. For example, we are both chastized for dating outside of our race, both of us have been asked "Why you talk so white?" while the person's nose is scrunched up and eyes rolling, and both of us have found that WE DON'T NEED TO PLEASE ANYONE BUT OURSELVES! I am tired of having to justify WHY I don't hang out with any other blacks, I just hang out with people who are like me: we love to laugh, love to have good conversation over wonderful meals, and travel. And I find that the ones who ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM AND WHAT I AM have NOT been black!! Why does it BOTHER other black people SO much if I do not to associate with them? I want THAT answered...
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You seem rather young. NOT immature, just young. Some of silly questions cease importance when you get older and hopefully wiser...
Although I have a personal problem with those African Americans that decide to obviously reject their own and join organizations where I have seen "XYZ" fraternity and White Race on their t-shirts, I really don't have any kinda time to educate Black people on their concept of Asil, because, out here in SoCali, I'm worried about how I am going to pay for my light bill
--FOR REAL!!! But just like I said, it's
my personal problem and I need to work it out on my own...
Some folks cain't see for lookin'!!! In fact when I discuss similar issues with "the most "vile" perpatrators of all that is racist--The White Males--for some reason they agree with me
... And I'm talkin' bout the kind that call US out our names!!!
Not the kindler and gentler--liberals... And for some reason I can make friends with these guys who are the Kard Karryin' Kind
... And it's usually when I'm talkin' 'bout Afrikans in amerikkklan, the utamawazo, the "Auset Papers" and sovereignty in the same sentances
... It don't make no kinna sense!!! It's irony at it's best...
But skeriously, I suspect you go to a school that is predominently caucasian--that is how you rushed your sorority... If your school is public, that means anybody can attend if they fulfill the requirements. So you basically get anyone attending. Most Black folks going to a public university come from a family background of "the first to GO TO College"... Since, folks come with their own cultural mores and family values when they are from the "ghetto" and see you--the assimilated object of the oppressors (kidnappers)--then, how can you expect them to EVER be nice to you?!?!? Especially when you are inadvertantly belittling their upbringing? Hell, they already get it from the police officers that just killed their friend!!! Why the HELL should they hear it from you, too? And don't tell me you have never said to a Black Man, "If only you just got off your butt and worked..." Because I know you have!!!
[This message has been edited by AKA_Monet (edited May 03, 2001).]