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Thanks for your comments LPI!
I have really tried everything I could possibly do to talk things out with this girl. I've written her letters and emails and talked to her face to face on several occassions. I have even apologized for things I didn't even do just to try to work something out. I just wish the other sisters could hear the cruel things she says to me when no one is around.
I really don't want it to affect the sorority, but she will just stop at nothing. Even our new members in the past AND some people who were rushing noticed the problem, but the older members dismiss it because she has them wrapped around her little finger.
That is part of why I don't want to go... she refuses to let me be productive in the sorority. Everything I do she just twists it and makes it a bad thing. For example, we were both PM at one point. I was PM for one semester but the next semester I went on to be treasurer and she was PM for two semesters after me. I recruited three times the number of girls she did with less people to help me. But somehow she has convinced everyone that I was terrible at recruiting, so no one listens to my ideas anymore. She has got them all thinking that I know nothing about recruiting even though I had one of our biggest pledge classes ever!
So I can't even express my opinions to help the sorority, and i am made to feel dumb when point out the ways she is hurting the sorority (like how she doesn't want to allow girls who are friends to rush, or she wants Bigs/littles to be complete opposites on everything so they can "make different friends") It feel like it is impossible for me to be an asset in this situation because she shoots me down constantly and tries to make me look bad in front of everyone, so i can't even help them at all. It doesn't mtter WHAT I say... I could say the sky is blue and she would argue it to death.
I agree with you 100% but I don't feel like I'm the one letting my personal life interfere with the sorority matters. I have tried really hard to put things aside and work things out with her, I have even begged her to just think about the sorority first, but she will not stop. Her goal is to make me quit the sorority and she will stop at nothing.
If it is hurting the sorority for me to be around (since she always argues and attacks me regardless of what I am saying or doing doing), wouldn't it just be better for them and me to stay away?
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