Thanks everybody! I really feel good about it. I was so active undergrad, in fact I was "Neophyte of the Year", when I transferred into the grad chapter in the town where my college was it was such a complete 180! The chapter was alot older, alot more set in thier ways.
When I moved to Houston I just got busy with life getting married, having kids, mortgages, career, school etc. Even though all those things are going on still and I am about to start my doctorate, enough is enough. I can't be at everything but I can be at something starting now.