[33girl]

I didn't mean that a woman who joins DST as a 20 year old undergrad will get the exact same experience as a 40 year old joining as an alum. Obviously there are things in college that you can't recreate.

But my point was that to say AI in NPC and grad membership in NPHC are not the same thing at all. If people are advocating a woman joinan NPC as an AI and it'll be the same as a collegiate experience, she'll be very disappointed. There aren't mixers or formals or mandatory anythings. Some alum chapters are more "businesslike" and have tons of activities for their members and some consist of getting together and having dinner twice a year. It runs a huge gamut, whereas pretty much EVERY collegiate chapter has essentially the same structure - weekly meetings, mixers, etc. - whether they have 12 women or 200. They have to, it's in their group's bylaws.