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I've been dumped hard twice, both times with pretty much no reason given to me. Once was fairly recently and I don't expect to ever find out the bottom line. The first time was quite a while ago and after a few years she and I talked a few times and she basically told me that she was young and wished she hadn't broken it off. She's now just about to have her divorce go through, getting married to another guy like a month after that, and she's pregnant with her 3rd kid by 3 different guys... oh did I mention she's 23 and a college drop out/waitress?
Blessings in disguise.
On the other hand I've broken up with at least 3 note worthy ex's. All of which are friends now.
First one I broke up with because I was young and wanted to play the field, everything was great, I was dumb, that sucks. Second one was awesome personality wise and everything clicked perfect everywhere except that I stopped being attracted to her and I had to end it. Third one was awesome and intense but after I graduated she made some new friends and started smoking a lot of pot and we just grew apart with different interests and kind of ended like this: Her "This isn't really working is it?" me: "Not really, I guess we're done" It was really sad because there was love there, but it was also really clean, no drama and it was just time. Now we're great friends.
But in regards to your situation, if you want to marry her some day, stick with it, let her know and also let her know that you need time and to feel comfortable about it completely as well.
If you don't want to marry her, quit wasting everyone's time and let her be free.
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